Why Do You Tuck?
We created 'WHY DO YOU TUCK' to honor the voices of those who've trusted us with their stories. Here, you'll find personal accounts of tucking that illuminate resilience, identity, and hope, reminding us all that we're never alone.
*In order to respect the interviewees' privacy, we have changed their real names to pseudonyms.
Why Do You Tuck?
1.Chrissy
For me, I tuck because I am working towards my transition to being Female. I find tucking is a good way to have a more feminine figure and for me to be able to express myself more openly through the clothing that I choose to wear. This includes clothing that is generally more closely fitted to the body and so not tucking would show a bulge which is not desired for me.
It started many years ago when I first became more aware of who I was inside and wanted my outer appearance to show that. So I looked into tucking more and more, bought several cheaper pairs of tucking underwear and for other companies but then came across TCOMFIFITS one day on Instagram I think it was and decided to give them a try. To this day they are still the most comfortable and well fitted tucking underwear I have and I'm definitely looking to get more!!
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2.Tess
I tuck because I am a transgender women and the bulge down there makes me uncomfortable and prevents me from having the silhouette that I want. Tucking makes me feel and look more the way I am. It is a small thing that helps me look the part that I feel.
Certainly. I think it could be interesting for transwomen to hear about the reasons why others tuck.
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3.Ann
I imagine you'll get a variety of responses to this one. For me, I tuck because I like to wear tight-fitting clothing, and would like to one day pass without strangers knowing that I'm trans. I know I have a long way to go on that, but I think being able to tuck comfortably will help with it. Tucking makes me feel a bit safer if I'm in an area that isn't as trans friendly as my home city.
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4.Charlie
The reason I came across your company is because I'm a trans woman. I've been transitioning medically for 3 years and live my life as a woman. As you’re aware, there are many trans women who struggle with the same issues I do, which is gender dysphoria. Before I found your products, I would tape. In my younger formative years, I only had access to duct tape, which I did use to get through my day.
For me personally, if I see a “bulge” downstairs, I will literally go in to a panic attack. It's miserable and at times has been debilitating.
I tuck using your panties because I have NEVER found a product that can hold me all day with zero issues that didn't include an adhesive. Your products have given me SO much confidence. I often refused to wear tight clothing because I was absolutely terrified that someone would clock me.
Using your products now for about a year and man these panties do work! Leggings in general are a challenge for trans women but with your products, I spend 90% of my time only in leggings.
I know it sounds silly, but y'all changed my life for the better! I know that was a lot. Sorry I'm a talker 🤷🏼♀️
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5. Val
For me tucking is about two things. One, dysphoria. I love wearing tight fitting bottoms like tights, skinny jeans and leggings. I also dance as a hobby and wear very tight fitting clothing. Having any sort of budge show really sets off my dysphoria. Secondly it’s about safety. Having a budge there can make it more easy to spot me as a trans woman. Especially when using public washrooms this can be a safety issue.
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6.Jasmine
The primary reason that I tuck is to feel a sense of uniformity between my physical body and the mental perception I have of myself. Being transgender means living with a constant disconnect between those two entities and that leads to the dysphoria that is often described. I secondary reason for tucking is an attempt to conform and fit in with other women. Here in the US, it can often be dangerous to be perceived as trans so tucking helps to keep one from standing out.
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7.Lynn
I tuck for esthetic reasons. If I want to wear pants (almost never do though) I don't want an ugly bulge cramping my style.
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8. Cassie
I have only very recently accepted the fact that I am a trans woman, and I tuck because it is an easy way to achieve gender euphoria. As someone who has not come out to the world, I can tuck in the privacy of my own room or out in public and feel more like myself without risk. Tucking was safe, affirming, and accessible; it was essentially me taking the first step into my transition.
I think that content would be helpful, but I would maybe add some content about why transgender women choose to tuck with tucking panties (or tucking yoga pants, etc.) as opposed to tape. I feel like most people are going to your website already interested in tucking, so while I do think those videos will be attractive, some videos on deciding the best tucking strategy for you may be helpful as well!
Thank you for all the work you do for our community, it makes such a huge difference.
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9.Jessie
I tuck because it helps me work through my gender dysphoria. I have known and been dealing with this for a long time but only within the last six months have gained the confidence to begin taking steps to be who I really am. I first came across your products on Amazon while looking for a tucking solution. Once I dialed in my size (took me several orders), I was so impressed with the results that I've purchased several more sets and these are now my everyday wear. There are times where I want more compression to overcome my dysphoria and I have another brand which helps me with this. But for day-to-day tucking comfort and lasting quality, these are the best. I also appreciate the boxes they come in - it's nice to be treated nicely! :-)
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10.Alexa
My main reason is that I want to maintain that "illusion" for others that I am a woman. I went for years without tucking mainly because the thought of using tape seemed like so much extra effort and kind of scary. I was born with desirable feminine traits like a slim small build, low amount of body hair. However, The past 2 years I have noticed more masculine features come through that comes with the increased testosterone levels associated with aging. I never had to worry about passing so much before but I'm getting clocked more and more often now. So I'm finally putting a bit more effort into my appearance. For further context, I live my days without makeup because I can't justify the price and effort in making myself more attractive or passable. I don't interact with many people in my life anyway, so I'm not trying to impress anyone. Plus I could do without the attention on the street if you know what I mean.
But, I digress. Tucking also allows me to wear clothing that I normally wouldn't be able to wear confidently enough or might cause unwanted attention, e.g. skirts, dresses and tights. The other main reason that I tuck is that having that flatten appearance, but especially how my genitals feel as they are positioned just feels affirming to me. But even more so is the reduction of dysphoria that my genitals give me. It feels good not to have that self-hating energy. To summarise, I use tucking as a method to avoid feeling bad about myself and people's reactions that may make me feel bad about myself.
I made the jump to tucking once tucking underwear became available and accessible and it's been great so far. By the way, I did buy a few products from different companies but Tcomfifits are my favourite!
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11. Stella
I can't afford bottom surgery, and I'm not entirely sure I actually want it. Surgery is pretty expensive in the United States, as well as difficult to qualify for, so tucking is a good way for me to better look and feel good about my gender and how I and others view me.
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12. Fia
I tuck so i can finally wear tighter and just certain clothes w/o having to worry about a bulge or anything like that, its so fun to finally be able to wear small shorts or tight dresses.
I think its a great idea to share ppls stories if they are comfortable with that. I think showing the freedom you can get from tucking is a great way to spread your buisness. As theres sitautions/ aesthetics that don't normally feel as available to trans girls that become more so via tucking, so try emphasing that!
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13.Julie
here isn't really a big story to tell. The simple truth is that I have bottom dysphoria and I read that tucking gaffs exist in a book, so I thought about buying it, and eventually I decided to buy tucking gaffs and tuck.
I am not sure about that. The potential customers for your product are mostly transwomen and maybe drag queens. You could split the transwomen in two groups, who might buy your products: 1. The transwomen who want to tuck and know about tucking gaffs. For this group, you have to solely convince them that you have the best product for the best price and that you exist. 2. Transwomen who are interested in tucking or have a reason, why they might be interested in tucking. For this group you also have to convince them that with your tucking pants they can tuck good and that it is interesting for them. I don't think they need reasons to tuck, but they just need to be convinced that the reasons they have are good reasons to tuck. Simpler put: If this is the case for you try this. You might be able to do this with your content, because they might have similar reasons as the transwomen in your content.
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14. Aurora
I tuck because I feel it helps me present better, there's many situations where I wear tighter fitting clothes and having a bulge where there shouldn't be is less than ideal. Also generally not having things showing does make me feel better about myself.
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15.Devina
I tuck for a couple of reasons, like aesthetics and personal feelings. I think that some outfits look better without a bulge in them. As for personal feelings, when I feel like presenting myself in a way that is different than my gender assigned at birth it allows me to feel confident and sexy in my body to tuck and have clothes that flatter my body.
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16. Dani
Honestly, I think it's just ease of mind. I don't want to go through my day exclusively thinking of my gender and questioning that, and trying tucking has let me do that. I'd love to not care about it, but unfortunately it's just how my brain is working, so this at least helps with that.
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17.Gina
Everyone is different and that's ok. I guess thinking about my story, I have gone through various stages of tucking. It used to be easier when I was younger. But things change in the body. Tucking gaffs are good because the way they are designed. I really do like the ones you make because you can pull them up higher and I do like how they hug my butt. They are great to wear with yoga pants, jeans and tight skirts. They are comfortable to wear all day.
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18. Samantha
I tuck because ever since my egg cracked, I didn’t like having a bulge in my pants; it was unfeminine. That being said, I don’t want vaginoplasty unless I can have the ability to bear children. On that note, where I live (NYC) is extremely accepting of trans people like us so there’s no need to tuck, but I do want to tuck out of a certain level of dysphoria I have. That being said, if you post why trans women tuck, please keep the testimonies anonymous (or pseudonymous)! I think you definitely know how marginalized we are, so anonymity or pseudonymity seems like the best way to advertise tucking reasons.
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19.Katerina
I identify as transgender and tucking, for me makes me feel more authentic. It reduces my gender dysphoria. I feel more feminine when I am tucked. I tuck almost all day, every day. To me tucking is not about "passing" but about being comfortable in my own look.
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20. Gigi
I tuck for two reasons: First is because I have disphoria, which is why I plan to have surgery in 6 months. Tucking helps alleviate that mental stress and enjoy my body.
The second reason is because I struggled for many years to love myself. Gender fluidity wasn't acceptable and my family is not supportive of it, so I felt scared to express how I feel. That led to years of lying to myself and others and building barriers to "be normal", forming shallow relationships, toxic behavior, and self-hate.
Eventually though, after I met the love of my life, got some Gender Affirming Care from a lovely doctor, and went to therapy to hash out my feelings, I've learned what it means to love who I am.
Tucking is a way of giving myself the validation I needed and deserved. It's a way to love my body. I can wear skinny jeans and feel sexy or a puffy sweater and feel cute, and I look in the mirror and feel attractive. I feel loved. I feel me.
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21. Colleen
I tuck because it lets me wear the clothes aligned with my gender identity comfortably and confidently. I came out as trans about six months ago and tucking was one of the first things I investigated to help affirm my gender, which led me to your company and products. I think anything that helps trans women feel closer to their true selves is amazing.
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22. Brienne
When I was really young, My moms best friend had 2 girls about the same age as me. They were in dance and stuff like that and we would play dressup and it always made me feel good about myself but never told anyone. I pretty much buried my feelings and pressed on with life. In my 20s, I moved to Atlanta Ga, and lived alone for a little while and came across a couple articles of female clothing I would wear in private. A few years later in 2014, I met my now wife and she has always been supportive of the LGBTQ+ community and so on our cross country I told her about it and so I started expressing myself privately. I haven't come out to anyone but her and my therapist so far.
